Please take the time to follow this link, to sign a petition to end fat hatred on Facebook. I realize I am unfashionably late to this party, but the petition is still active so hopefully I can be forgiven. This petition is in response to, among other tings, groups on Facebook taking pictures of people from the Fatosphere (without their permission), and putting them up to mock and ridicule. A notable example of a person this happened to was fancy lady Natalie of definatalie.com, who wrote a truly inspiring piece titled You can't bully me out of my skinny jeans in response to the person who took her picture. So, again, please do sign the petition!
Vær så snill å ta deg tid til å følge denne linken, og signer en underskriftskampanje for å få slutt på åpent hat av tjukke mennesker på Facebook. Jeg er klar over at jeg er drøyt sent ute med denne oppfordringen, men underskriftskampanjen er fortsatt aktiv så forhåpentligvis kan jeg tilgis. Denne kampanjen er, bl.a, en reaksjon til grupper på Facebook som har tatt bilder av mennesker fra Fett-o-sfæren (uten deres tillatelse), og lagt dem ut til latterliggjøring og utskjelling. Et prominent eksempel på et menneske dette skjedde med er den fancy damen Natalie fra definatalie.com, som skrev et virkelig inspirerende innlegg kalt "You can't bully me out of my skinny jeans" til svar på det som skjedde med henne. Så, igjen, vær så snille å skriv under på underskriftskampanjen.
Standing on top of the soapbox, next to it, in front or behind - these are my musings.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
'End Fat Hatred' on Facebook
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
"Triggering"
Hvis du tilbringer litt tid i Fett-o-sfæren, kanskje spesielt i Fatshionista LJ samfunnet, vil du etterhvert bli godt kjent med ordet "triggering", eller utløsende. Et eksempel: "Klikk på denne linken for å lese resten av innlegget, da noen av dere kan oppleve det som utløsende." Dette utløsende innholdet kan være mange forskjellige ting, i Fett-o-sfæren er smertefulle beretninger om tidligere slankekurer et tema som ofte anses som utløsende, uten at det på noen måte det eneste. Andre eksempler inkluderer snakk om spiseforstyrrelser, seksuelle overgrep, og negative samtaler om egne eller andres kropper formulert i sterke ordelag. Jeg har lest kritikk av denne kulturen hvor vi skjermer folk fra temaer de kan finne utløsende, men jeg personlig har alltid ansett det for en hensynsfull og fornuftig ting å gjøre i et forum hvor vi jobber for å bedre menneskers forhold til deres egne kropper. Når jeg lesser en "trigger warning" eller varsel om utløsende innhold, kan jeg lese videre med en litt endret mental innstilling.
No, I thought: "Well, maybe I should -" And then I remembered who I am, because I am a fat accepting fatty, at least I am trying to be. Unfortunately, remembering this didn't bring with it some great way of shutting that inner voice up, the only thing I could think to do was to stop myself from seeing these hurtful messages, and before I thought about it my fingers hurried to close the browser window. I hurridly found an other occupation for my thoughts, as I knew I was in no emotional space to rationally think this through.
It was only later, when I was no longer feeling the feelings these comments had brought, that I realized that I had found a new version of triggering.
Monday, September 13, 2010
Calling all Norwegian speakers, Scandinavians, and anyone else who might care what we call FA in Norway
I går var jeg på twitter da @definatalie twitret at inlegget hun hold på den første (årlige) australske "Fat Studies Conference" var lagt ut på hjemmesiden hennes. Jeg vet ikke hva det var for noe, men noe med å sitte der å se på henne mens hun holdt et innlegg om Fat Acceptance i det virkelige livet fikk meg til å tenke litt alvorlig på hvordan Fat Acceptance bevegelsen står i Norge. Er det en Fat Acceptance bevegelse i Norge? Jeg gjorde litt undersøkelser ved hjelp av Google og Kvasir, og det ser ut til at svaret er nei. Her bør jeg kanskje nevne at en av artiklene jeg leste i forbindelse med mitt søk på Kvasir var "Hva gir tynne mennesker rett til å fordømme meg, selv om jeg er tjukk?". Grunnen til at dette bør nevnes, er at etter at jeg leste denne artikkelen virket det nærmest umulig å tenke: "Jaja, så finnes det ingen Fat Acceptance bevegelse i Norge, ikke mitt problem."
Så dette er mitt forsøk på å bidra til en (forhåpentligvis spirende) Fat Acceptance bevegelse i Norge, ved å ta tak i det første spørsmålet: Hva skal denne bevegelsen hete?
Hvis bevegelsen allerede har et navn, VÆR SÅ SNILL og fortelle meg det i en kommentar, og anse det som unødvendig å lese resten av dette innlegget.
Jeg føler veldig sterkt at vi ikke kan kalle det "Fat Acceptance", da dette ikke, etter min mening, er en god måte å nå den gjennomsnittlige nordmann. Men først, skal vi holde oss til Fat Acceptance? Eller skal vi gå for Size Acceptance, eller kanskje Body Acceptance? Her hadde jeg satt stor, stor pris på innspill fra mer erfarne Fat Acceptance aktivister enn meg!
Mer spesifikt, skal vi kalle det "fett aksept"? "Fedme aksept" (høres litt vel klinisk ut for meg, på linje med "obese")? "Fet aksept"? "Feit aksept" (personlig er jeg litt svak for denne)? "Tjukk aksept"? "Tjukkas aksept" (jeg har lest det beskrevet som "tjokkas aksept" på svensk)? Skal vi kanskje snu det på hodet litt og gå for "aksept av fett" e.l? Hva med "kropps aksept"? "Størrelses aksept"?
Jeg er virkelig utrolig interessert i tankene deres her, felles tjukkaser og allierte! Hvis dere ikke har lyst/kan kommentere her kan jeg nås på musingsfromthesoapbox@gmail.com eller @wicked_cakes på twitter. Jeg har også skrevet et liknende innleg i Fatshionista LJ samfunnet, så du kan kommentere der.
Til slutt, er det et annet forum du føler jeg burde spurt dette spørsmålet i?
Yesterday I was on twitter when @definatalie tweeted that her speech from the first (annual) Australian Fat Studies Conference had been posted to her blog. I don't know what it was, but something about sitting there watching her give a speech on Fat Acceptance in real life got me thinking somewhat seriously about where the Fat Acceptance movement stands i Norway. Is there a Fat Acceptance movement in Norway? I did some research with the help of Google and Kvasir, and the answer seems to be no. Here I should perhaps mention one of the articles I read during my Kvasir search was "Hva gir tynne mennesker rett til å fordømme meg, selv om jeg er tjukk?" ("What gives thin people the right to judge me, though I am fat?" I got Google to translate the article for those of you who don't read Norwegian.) The reason why this should be menioned, is that after I read this article it seemed almost impossible to think: "So there's no Fat Acceptance movement in Norway, not my problem."
So this is my attempt at contributing to a (hopefully growing) Fat Acceptance movement in Norway, by addressing the first question: What should this movement be called?
If the movement already has a name , PLEASE tell me what it is in a comment, and consider reading the rest of this post unnecessary.
I feel very strongly that we can't call it "Fat Acceptance", as this is not a good way of reaching the avrerage Norwegian person, imo. But first, should we stick with Fat Acceptance? Or should we go for Size Acceptance, or maybe Body Acceptance? On this point I would appreciate some input from more seasoned Fat Acceptance activists so incredibly much!
More spesifically, should we call it "fett aksept"? "Fedme aksept" (sounds a little too clinical to me, along the lines of "obese")? "Fet aksept"? "Feit aksept" (personally I have a weakness for this one)? "Tjukk aksept"? "Tjukkas aksept" (I have read it described as "tjokkas aksept" in Swedish)? Should we twist it around a bit and go for "aksept av fett" or something like it? How about "kropps aksept"? "Størrelses aksept"?
I am truly tremendously interested in your thoughts on this subject, my fellow fatties and allies! If you don't feel like/can't comment on here I can be reached at musingsfromthesoapbox@gmail.com, or @wicked_cakes on twitter. I have also written a post similar to this in the Fatshionista LJ community, so you can comment on there.
Lastly, is there an other forum in which you feel I should ask this question?
Thursday, September 9, 2010
It's not about my health! Part II
'It's not about my health!' becomes a series with a repost from The Philosophy Of Fat.
A guest post by Karen: From the other side of 'acceptable'
For seven years, I have alternated between suffering and recovering from anorexia nervosa. While I have never been overweight, I have been confronted by many people about various weights, ranging from 6st7 to 9st7. These people have included family, friends, acquaintances, but also, perhaps surprisingly, strangers. I have had raging arguments with parents (“it’s not attractive”), friends who have grabbed my bottom, or lack thereof, and informed me that I’m too thin. I have had strangers in the street shout at me to eat a burger, and point me in the direction of the nearest eating disorders clinic as a hilarious joke with their friends. Perhaps most hurtful of all of this was a supposed friend coming to me in the college toilets, lifting my jumper and pulling my jeans to expose my ribs, concave stomach and hipbones to her friends, to prove that I was “too thin” as she’d told them.
The strange thing about all of this is, while I have strived for and achieved that UK size 2 (US 00) frame where knickers only stay up because they can be hung on protruding hipbones, this never made me happy. I openly admit that I did feel achieved when I could no longer buy clothes, with adult clothes being too big and children’s being too short and yes, I did feel achieved as I lost more and more weight. For years, losing weight has been my goal but at many times during these seven years, it has been my life.
However, I am now a UK size 6 (US 2) and, while the days of endless dieting and obsessive exercise do not seem as though they are a thing of the distant past, I am a healthy weight and shape. One would assume from this that I am a much healthier person, but this assumption couldn’t be much further from the truth. While my healthy 9st body and my 28F chest give me a curvy, womanly shape, and while I eat regularly and I am more confident, this does not mean I am healthy. I smoke 20 roll-ups a day. I don’t run unless I’m going to miss the metro and, if I do that, I practically need resuscitating upon entrance to the train. At the same time, my boyfriend’s weight is exactly double my own, making him technically obese but, while the BMI charts all do battle with him trying to make him eat less and get more exercise, I spend time doing battle with him myself, simply to get him away from his weight bench! Of the two of us, he is far healthier and sets a fine example of how healthy one can be at a higher weight. I, however, work more as a terrible warning of the opposite issue!
While this has, so far, been a message of how unhealthy one can be when slim, I do not mean to suggest that one must be curvy to be healthy. For me, it is a question of balance - a balanced diet in which one nourishes one’s body, and a daily routine that keeps the body active but not exhausted. This balance is something I have not yet struck, but I intend to once I have come to be more comfortable with the sudden arrival of my bust and my bottom. If I led a healthier lifestyle, however, I would lose weight and that in turn would lead me back to the same situation of people passing me in the street and feeling that they have a right to comment on my shape. For me, then, and for many others, this situation becomes catch 22. I lose weight because I am leading a healthy lifestyle; I gain weight to please others by fulfilling a certain ideal of appearance. There is no point at which I am acceptable. Why?
The issue that few seem to consider is this: commenting on the appearances of others in a negative way is NOT polite, acceptable or necessary - rather, it is rude and it is damaging. By telling someone thin to go and eat something fattening, one will not inspire them to gain weight, just the same as telling someone fat to put down their pasty will not encourage them to lose weight. No one should be made to feel ashamed of their appearance but, furthermore, are the people who wish to comment in this fashion not being rather shallow? I am no more or less happy, successful or loved at this weight than I was at any other. Those who care about the person inside don’t care about the person outside but, those who do care about the outer “beauty” are often the ones with the power to make the individual miserable and lonely.